If there is one thing that we all look forward to in the summer, it’s holidays, vacations and family picnics. It’s time to be happy, calm, loving and express gratitude towards your family and loved ones. However, as the summer approach us, stress and anxiety kick in.
A survey conducted by Healthline a few years ago indicated that only 10% of all Americans experience no stress during the summer. Summer stress for couples can leave both partners feeling overwhelmed, tired and irritable. It can lead to serious problems in the relationship if this is not addressed in a timely fashion. Remember, you can always try group counseling online to help you through these tough times. Click here to learn more.
While financial demands seem to be the biggest stressor, there are some things that will help you make you make the summer season more enjoyable. Here are 5 tips on how to make this summer more enjoyable.
1. Limit places you go
Summer parties and picnics are fun and can be a great way to sit down or have fun with your friends and co-workers. These outings can also become very stressful if you try to go to every single one of them.
It’s not about trying to figure which party or friend is more important. It’s about having a clear intention of what you’d like to experience at each one of those parties. Take a few minutes and try to visualize those parties: do you want to have a wild night, or do you prefer a calm dinner? Would you like to dress up, or go to a more casual party? Would you like to go and meet your partner’s co-workers, or would you rather have a dinner party at home with your close friends.
2. Create your own traditions instead of following someone else’s
One of the biggest battles couples have during the summer is choosing whose families they will celebrate with. There is a lot of pressure to follow the old traditions and make everyone happy. You have to create your own traditions instead of trying to copy someone else’s. Every family is different, everyone’s values are different so you have to be able to do what works for you, and not for you neighbor or co- worker.
3. Slow down
There are so many things happening during the summer: your kids are home from school. packing for vacation, doing yard work—just to name a few. But how often do we actually sit down and enjoy our homes? How often do we slow down to have sip a cold drink outside in the yard?
We are so busy trying to check off all of the things on our to-do lists that we forget to actually enjoy them. Give yourself at least a 30 minute break to recharge. For example, do some breathing exercises while looking outside the window at the horizon. It helps you become more connected and aware.
4. Stop being perfect
Who doesn’t love checking out Pinterest for some great table decor ideas or dishes? When we’re hosting a get-together we often feel the urge to satisfy everyone’s needs, whether it’s a dietary restriction or simply a taste preference. We become so tense making sure everyone is happy that we that we are faced with anxiety ourselves. Take a minute and evaluate whether the perfect decorations are worth more than the time you would spend enjoying your friends and family.
5. Share compliments with your loved ones
We spend so much time trying to find the perfect menu or heartwarming gift for our family and friends, yet we still manage to get annoyed with them during the events. You spend hours trying to find the perfect gift for your mom and it only takes a second for you to get mad at her for insisting to eat more of her pie. Show your loved ones how grateful you are. Happiness is infectious and more much more important than the gifts.