Holiday Visit Guide: Recognizing When Your Elderly Parents Need Assistance

Updated on December 18, 2023

As we move into winter after Thanksgiving, many winter holidays come with family get-togethers. When parents age in place, many may find that more family gatherings are hosted at their house rather than their parents to spare them the trouble of traveling. 

It’s normal for children of older adults aging in place to be concerned for their parents’ well-being. Luckily, the holidays are a great time to check in with elderly parents and relatives and get a feel for how they’re doing. 

Here are things to look out for during holiday visits that may indicate elderly parents need additional assistance at home.

Behavioral Changes

During your visit, there are some behavioral changes to look out for. 

A decline in hygiene and a general lack of concern for appearance and grooming may be a sign that aging relatives are struggling either mentally, physically, or both. 

Additionally, pay attention to how much aging relatives engage in conversation. Do they seem more withdrawn than usual? Consider if they are showing any signs of depression, including feelings of hopelessness, irritability, decreased energy, or eating more or less.

Everyone forgets some things here and there, but has the level of forgetfulness changed? Elderly parents might have a new tendency to repeat themself, whether asking the same questions or making the same statements during a conversation. Maybe an elderly parent is forgetting their bills or accidentally skipping doses of their medications.

While some of these behaviors may be considered normal for some parents, family members will want to look for any changes in these behaviors and pay extra attention if they’re new or worsening. 

Sensory Changes

Sensory changes are often a normal part of aging. Noticing sensory changes in aging parents, such as vision changes or hearing loss, can still be scary for family, friends, and them.

If you notice that an elderly parent is having difficulties during conversations, consider if it could be due to hearing loss. Are they asking those around them to repeat questions and statements louder or having difficulty following conversations at the dinner table? These are some of the signs to look out for. 

Some may notice that an elderly parent is showing new frustrations with reading and complaining that they can’t see as well as they used to. If they aren’t vocal about their vision changes, pay attention to their ability to recognize family and friends from a distance and their awareness of nearby hazards. If they’re walking into tables and bumping into furniture, this could indicate vision changes. 

Physical Ability

Changes in elderly parent’s physical ability could also be due to aging and this could indicate an issue that needs addressing. 

Keep an eye out for new limits in their mobility. If an elderly parent struggles to get out of their chair or shows shortness of breath while standing or after walking a short distance, these could indicate a decline in their physical health. 

Hand tremors, head shaking, or difficulties with balance can indicate other health issues. Deteriorating motor skills can be the most alarming for children of older adults. 

Medication Adherence

Perhaps one of the most important things to pay attention to when visiting elderly parents is medication adherence. Ask questions about their medications to help discern whether or not they’ve been taking them safely and accurately. 

Some questions to ask include:

  • Have you been taking your medications on time every day?
  • What medications are you currently taking?
  • Do you ever skip doses of medications?
  • Does your doctor or pharmacist tell you what medications, supplements, or foods you can or cannot use together?
  • Do you have trouble remembering to take your medications?

If possible, check their medications and offer help with medication maintenance. When an elderly parent doesn’t take their medications as prescribed and directed, they risk running into health issues.

If it appears too difficult for your elderly parents to manage their medications alone, consider signing them up for a service that delivers medications pre-sorted and pre-dosed. A recent study has shown that this service and switching to dose packs with the date and time printed on each pack can help your elderly parents adhere to their medication regimen. 

Next Steps

If you’re feeling any level of concern for the well-being of your aging parents after evaluating them in the above areas, you may be asking yourself, what now? 

PRX Check is one way to evaluate your aging loved one’s well-being and learn steps you can take to help them. All you have to do is answer a few questions about the criteria above, and the quiz will offer solutions and suggestions to share with your loved ones or their healthcare team based on your results. 

This holiday season, checking in on elderly parents and relatives lets them know their family cares.

Lawrence Margolis is CEO at PersonalRX.
Lawrence Margolis

Lawrence Margolis is CEO at PersonalRX.